Choosing yourself

Who is going to lift you up, take you places and carry you through life? Who cares most about your joy, your success, your heart, your happiness than, you? No one.

At the end of the day, all you have is yourself, and that’s not a bad thing.

Once I started living by this mantra, everything changed- in a GOOD way. Once you start prioritising yourself over anyone else, you self-actualise and grow. This possesses a new energy in you and in turn, opens up space for good things to make their way towards you.

For me, acting on this mantra meant entering myself, which was lonely and daunting. I had to really question who I was and what I wanted, what I deserved and how I would attract that. From what were originally thoughts in my journal, came actions that would help me to get to the place where I realised I should be, and where I am now.

These actions involved moving away from some old friends that didn’t align with me anymore. It meant choosing to be by myself instead of with people who don’t fully appreciate me. It meant working hard to build a home for myself. It meant choosing a risky career but something that I love. It meant I experienced some time being lonely, lost and pretty confused. But then- magic!

Freeing up space for yourself draws you into your psyche- you realise who you are on a deeper level. This self-knowledge anchors a new energy within you- you become more confident, more powerful. Most importantly, you free up space for new people, new enjoyments and new achievements to enter your life.

Perhaps the antithesis to what a lot of people would expect, choosing yourself isn’t some rationalisation of living a solitary, selfish existence. I am the fullest I’ve ever been.

I have created space for the most beautiful and soulfully aligned people to find me. We have all found each other in a beautiful way and it was my internal confidence in putting myself out there and bringing people together that partly created this. After so long of constantly cursing the effort and time I chose to put into friendships in a way that always left me feeling depleted because the effort and care were never reciprocated, it finally paid off.

However, I truly believe in divine timing and the magic that happens after you work on yourself first, and the space and radiant energy this materialises. I am not saying this is a two-step guide, but I think if you nail these two things, just wait and see what happens :)

I have also created a home for myself and feel the most at home I have ever felt in my entire life. I think the journey and struggle to find this in the past has made it so much more beautiful. Also, the fact that I found this place that I feel so at home, independently, makes it even more special.

I am working in a career that I love. It was once I accepted my passions and stopped worrying about money, status and whatever else other people choose to care about that I attracted a job that I always knew I should be doing. Now, I never feel like I work.

So, I chose myself above anyone or anything else and – I’m happy. The happiest I have ever been. I feel more like myself than I ever have. Things will ebb-and-flow, like always, but right now, I’m embracing this blissful feeling. With the gift of hindsight, I realise that my life up until this point has always been shadowed by a sadness, a sadness that I thought was just part of me, but now I realise, it’s not.

When I started going about life with this new mentality it’s amazing how much my overall sense of self improved. I don’t let the things upset me that used to. I know myself, and I have myself, and nothing can get in the way of that.

So, if you’ve got you and your pure most joys, you will find yourself filling up your days with what fulfils you and surrounding yourself with people that do the same.

I truly believe this is everything you need.